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Judgment
I’m not perfect.
Not even close. Or, better put, a lot closer to imperfect. There are many things I still want to learn and do better, and very likely, there are also a few blind spots I need to uncover. But they’re blind spots, so I keep asking the people I know and trust what they see me doing (action) or being (behavior).
You can do only one thing when you want to uncover your blind spots.
Ask for feedback.
Ask for it, and then listen. Listen without prejudice and judgment. Just hear the person explain to you what they observe. What you will listen to is one person’s perspective. It might not be the truth — it’s a perspective. But if it sounds like it could be true, it’s worth considering and then double-checking with others.
You need a strong foundation for this, and you need to stand firmly in your shoes.
You may not like what people have to say to you. You may get confirmation of things you already know but hide from yourself. It may be incredibly uncomfortable, but then again, you asked for it, so you might as well take it and grow from it.
When people give you unsolicited feedback, you can leave it for what it is. Unsolicited. That type of feedback often comes when they have something to say to you that’s bothering them.
